How to Feel Confident in Relationships
Life’s a team game. Your happiness depends on the quality of your relationships with your romantic partners, friends and family members, doesn’t it?
Research at the University of London found that living in loving relationships gave the same level of happiness as an £82,000 pay rise, every year! You might say it’s priceless.
Why Are Relationships Such a Problem?
There are many reasons why you may lack confidence in relationships, such as:
- bad experiences in the past
- poor role models when you were young,
- a need to understand yourself and others better,
- low self-esteem and self-confidence,
- dealing with difficult emotions and people,
- pressures at home or work,
- a need to learn new communication skills
Sometimes, we can talk to our friends and family about these things, but often the person who should support us most is the person we’re having difficulty with!
Even if you have encouraging people in your life, who can rush in with helpful suggestions, they often don’t have the skill to give you the confidence to carry them out!
How will people react if you become more assertive or outgoing? Will you be able to handle their reactions? And will they still like you then?
It can feel safer to avoid risking upset or embarrassment…but you’ve probably
realised there are downsides to that.
When you feel you can’t express your feelings or deal with
disagreements fairly, the fun goes out of your relationships. And you never
experience the joy of knowing that people like you
for who you REALLY are.’
Of course it would be much easier if the ‘difficult people’ in your life
would change, be more reasonable or get the hint. Unfortunately, they often
don’t see why they should. You may have to wait forever!
If you don’t learn how to deal with difficult people, it’s
uncanny the way they keep turning up in your life.
What’s worse is, we can be hunting all our lives for the ‘right’ people when the truth is there may have been loads of ‘right’ people in our lives, if only we knew how to get the best out of them.
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